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How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
By Jenna Ryu
Super Soaker
So You Want to Learn How to Squirt During Sex
A step-by-step guide to turning on the water works.
By Erica Sloan
17 Hot Ways to Stimulate Your Clit for an Amazing Orgasm
There’s so much more than your basic nub-rub to try.
By Erica Sloan
How to Try Edging, the Sex Technique That Takes Teasing to a Whole New Level
Drawing out the buildup to an orgasm can be incredibly hot.
By Erica Sloan
What to Do If Dry Mouth During Sex Is Really Killing Your Vibe
If your teeth, tongue, and lips transform into the Sahara whenever you visit Pound Town, read this.
By Anna Borges
I’ve Tested More Than 100 Wand Vibrators—But This One Is My All-Time Favorite
It won me over in minutes.By Gabrielle Kassel- Love
Your Guide to the Very Best Vibrators Out There
We've got options for all, whether you’re new to toys or just looking for something more fun.46 slidesBy Sarah Madaus and Gabrielle Kassel - Love
The Best Vibrators on Amazon That Reviewers Can’t Stop Buzzing About
They’ll ship quickly and definitely deliver.26 slidesBy Kristin Canning Yes, Sex Furniture Is a Thing—Here Are 33 Functional Options We Love
It could be just what you need to spice things up.By Sarah Madaus and Gabrielle Kassel- Buzz worthy
15 Wand Vibrators That’ll Hit All the Right Spots
Try them on clits, nipples, penises, butts—anywhere you want to feel a nice buzz.16 slidesBy Malia Griggs and Jessica Kasparian 12 Strap-Ons That Are Great From Top to Bottom
Including beginner-friendly options and upgrades for experienced users.13 slidesBy Malia Griggs and Sara Coughlin10 Sex Pillows to Help You Hit All the Right Angles
According to experts and very pleased shoppers.11 slidesBy Jessica Kasparian24 Expert-Approved Sex Toys for All Experience Levels
Including beginner-friendly rabbits, remote-controlled vibes, and more.By Malia Griggs and Sara CoughlinHow to Have Multiple Orgasms When One Just Isn’t Enough
It’s a marathon, not a sprint.By Zahra ThompsonThe Beginner’s Guide to Using a Vibrator
If you’re brand-new to this type of sex toy, here’s everything to know to have an amazing time.By Anna Borges and Amy Rose Spiegel
9 Very Hot Non-Penetrative Sex Ideas
If you can’t—or don’t want to—get it in, we’ve got some moves that’ll still get you off.
By Erica Sloan
Life
What to Do If Your People-Focused Job Completely Drains Your Social Battery
These little strategies can help you preserve some energy for your loved ones—and yourself.
By Jessica A. Gold, MD
Hot mama
How to Feel Horny Again as a New Mom
Remember that you won’t be sexless and covered in spit-up forever.
By Kathleen Felton
What to Do If IBS Is Shitting on Your Sex Life
GI symptoms always seem to show up at the worst possible times.
By Erica Sloan
Sex Love
The Best Lubes for Smooth Sailing Alone or With a Partner
Loved by both experts and shoppers.
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By Malia Griggs and Sarah Felbin
How to Have Great Sex If You Deal With Chronic Pain
It’s absolutely possible to make your body a source of pleasure.
By Erica Sloan
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Love
What Does ‘Enough’ Sex Really Look Like in a Healthy Relationship?
Is once a week really the sweet spot? We asked experts to weigh in.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
7 People Share How They Discovered Their Partner Was Emotionally Cheating
“She was quick to start fights…and spoke fondly of a coworker.”
By Kayla Blanton
Losing battle
5 Signs You and Your Partner’s Arguments Are Unhealthy
If one of you regularly employs the silent treatment, that’s a problem.
By Julia Ries
Love
‘All My Exes Are Crazy’ Is a Relationship Red Flag You Should Take Seriously
Constantly trash-talking people they once loved reveals a lot about their character.
By Jenna Ryu
12 Tips for Having Better, More Intense Orgasms
If you’re looking to come so hard you forget your own name, read on.
By Zahra Thompson
How Dating With a Chronic Illness Taught Me Not to Settle for Less
The stigma is real, but I had to stop thinking of myself as “damaged goods.”
By Caroline Reilly
The 26 Sexiest Shows to Stream on Netflix Right Now
From the steamy to the downright dirty.
By Samantha Vincenty and Hannah Dylan Pasternak
14 Non-Corny Ways to Feel Much Closer to Your Partner
Ask them for advice, sleep in their clothes, and sneak a candy bar into their work bag.
By Amy Rose Spiegel
Love
How to Get Really, Really Good at Kissing
Tips about form, technique, and all things tongue.
By Nikki Campo and Gigi Engle
Love
8 People Share How Their Divorce Changed Their Life for the Better
“Finally, I loved what I did for a living. I loved who I was and the new friends I’d made.”
By Jenna Ryu
What My First Time Having Sex After Giving Birth Felt Like
It absolutely took longer than six weeks to get back in the groove.
By Julia Ries
Love
6 Not-Obvious Signs You’re Falling Out of Love With Your Partner
There’s a difference between needing a little space and fantasizing about a separate life.
By Jenna Ryu
State of the union
Scheduling a Weekly ‘House Meeting’ With My Partner Changed My Damn Life
Now we save the stressful stuff for our check-ins so we can actually enjoy our couch time and date nights.
By Julia Ries
Here’s Where to Find the Best Audio Porn and Erotica
Whether you’re into sexy stories, masturbation tutorials, or straight-up moaning.
By Anna Borges and Jenni Miller