10 Best Sex Pillows to Help You Hit All the Right Angles
Vibrators or cuffs might be the first things that come to mind when you picture “sex toys,” but sex pillows are the unsung heroes of kinky accessories. They can make different positions way more pleasurable (or possible), allow for deeper penetration, and take pressure off of your joints and muscles, Javay-Frye Nekrasova, MEd, a certified sex educator at Lovehoney, tells SELF.
“Everyone should try a sex pillow because it gives you more support than a regular pillow, and it won’t flatten out as you use it” like a regular pillow might, Nekrasova says. “They also allow for more creativity when trying new positions.” For instance, lying on a wedge-shaped pillow during oral sex can help raise your (or your partner’s) body for easier access.
When shopping for a sex pillow, you’ll want to think about whether the materials, shape, and size are the best fit for your needs. Take foam pillows: They provide lots of support but are known to be bulky. So, if you live in a New York City shoebox with no closets, an inflatable pillow might make more sense. Meanwhile, curved or bolster-shaped pillows are popular for masturbation, while a wedge can support you during partnered sex.
We spoke with experts to learn the best ways to use a sex pillow by yourself or with a partner. Then we researched options from top brands to find the most comfortable models on the market.
- Best Wedge Pillow: Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow
- Best Inflatable Pillow: Lovehoney Dominix Deluxe Inflatable Sex Position Wedge
- Best Toy Mount: Liberator Pulse Sex Toy Mount
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1Liberator
Wedge Pillow
Best Wedge Pillow: Psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist Megan Fleming, PhD, recommends using the classic Liberator Wedge to make missionary comfier by slipping it under your hips to tilt your pelvis up. This “provides a better depth of penetration, depending on the angle, and it could also give more clitoral stimulation,” she says.
The pillow is also 24 inches across, so it provides a wide, sturdy base, Nekrasova says. The moisture-resistant liner protects the foam inside, and you can pop the microfiber cover in the laundry for easy cleanup.
- Pros: Machine-washable cover; moisture-resistant liner; versatile design
- Cons: On the bulkier side
Lovehoney2Dominix
Deluxe Inflatable Sex Position Wedge
Best Inflatable Pillow: Question: When you’re not using your sex pillow, where does it go? Some are fairly big, which means they can be tricky to store. Inflatable pillows seek to solve this problem by collapsing down to a size you can easily stash in your closet.
Nekrasova’s favorite inflatable, this wedge-shaped Dominix from Lovehoney also easily fits in a carry-on. “You can take it with you on sexy weekend getaways and still enjoy deep penetration and explore various positions without adding too much weight to your luggage,” she says.
All inflatables run the same risk of letting out air the longer you lean on them (this is the reason we all hate air mattresses), but reviewers say this one stays firm and feels super supportive. And if you want to whip out restraints, like wrist or ankle cuffs, you can attach them to the small loops on either side of the pillow.
- Pros: Versatile design; stays inflated well; includes two loops for attaching accessories
- Cons: Doesn’t include an air pump
Amazon3Liberator
Pulse Toy Mount
Best Toy Mount: A curvy, contoured pillow can rock with every hip thrust to make your masturbation routine even hotter. This one from Liberator has two pockets to accommodate your favorite toy—a small slot you can tuck a bullet vibrator into and a larger opening that can fit a wand vibe or dildo.
You can also flip the pillow over so the rounded edge is face-up and hold it to stabilize yourself during partnered sex.
- Pros: Removable cover for easy cleanup; pockets for vibrators; great for masturbation
- Cons: On the bulkier side; not discreet
Delicto4Dame
Pillo
Sometimes, size does matter. The Dame Pillo is only 15 inches in length, compared to the Liberator Wedge, which is 24, making it easy to tuck away when it’s not in use. “The Pillo’s design is also discreet enough that no one would ever know [it’s not a lumbar pillow] I use for back pain,” one former SELF editor says.
It has both a removable cover and a water-resistant nylon inner liner—a real plus if you squirt, she adds.
- Pros: Small; water-resistant inner liner; machine-washable outer cover
- Cons: Some shoppers say the fabric is prone to tearing
Amazon5ForPro Professional Collection
Full Round Bolster Pillow
A long, cylindrical bolster like this one is helpful for extra support while lying down—“perhaps on your side with one leg bent, knee up toward the chest,” Rosara Torrisi, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and the founding director at the Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy, tells SELF. Or place it under your hips for some lift, and it’ll roll as you move with a partner.
“These pillows can also be used for grinding on,” Dr. Torrisi notes, giving you even more options for getting off. The cover isn’t removable, but it is oil- and stain-resistant, so you can give it a quick spot-clean if you get a little heavy-handed with lube.
- Pros: Versatile design; oil- and stain-resistant cover; loop on one end makes it easier to carry
- Cons: Cover isn’t removable (but can be spot-cleaned)
Amazon6Misstu
Half Moon Pillow
Bending over this inflatable pillow will lift your hips and butt up so you or your partner can hit all the right spots during doggy style or while going down on you. You can also pop your wand vibe into the center hole and straddle it, or put the pillow between your knees to keep your legs open in a spooning position. Another bonus? It comes with an electric pump, so you can skip the boring setup process.
- Pros: Easy to store; includes a pump for easy setup; waterproof exterior
- Cons: Some reviewers say it’s too tall
Amazon7Liberator
Wing Sex Toy Mount
This dense foam bolster is another great pick for masturbation because it has two sewn-in slits where you can add your dildo or vibrator for a hands-free solo sesh. According to Carol Queen, PhD, staff expert at Good Vibes, the design is popular for folks who want to “put on a show” for a partner and also allows people with vulvas to hit their G-spot with a toy.
- Pros: Two pockets for sex toys; machine-washable cover
- Cons: On the bulkier side; some reviewers note the holes are too big for small vibes
Adam & Eve8Whipsmart
Try-Angle Perfect Position Cushion
The velvet cover on this wedge feels soft against skin and stops the pillow from sliding around even when you’re hitting a groove. It comes with wrist constraints that can clip onto loops on each side of the pillow in seconds, so you and your partner can take turns tying each other up.
“I was hesitant to spend this much on a cushion because I’d just stack bed pillows before, but after finally pulling the trigger, it was well worth the investment,” one shopper wrote.
- Pros: Removable, machine-washable cover; includes bondage accessories
- Cons: Not as easy to store
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Ultimate Sex Position Enhancer Set (2-Piece)
Most sex pillows are one piece, but this model from Lovehoney consists of two wedge-shaped supports that can be arranged into a few different positions: Move the two ramps into a V-shape so that you and your partner can each have back support while facing each other. Or, you can also stack one on top of the other for some extra height; they’re covered in a velvet, nonslip material that keeps them from sliding.
- Pros: Versatile; removable and machine-washable cover
- Cons: Difficult to store; pricey
Amazon10Liberator
Flip Ramp Sex Positioning Pillow
When it’s unfolded, this pillow acts as a ramp you can lie on during oral sex for easier eye contact and touch with your partner. Folded, the cube-like cushion comes in handy when you need more height and motion in standing positions. The moisture-resistant liner is a nice touch to make sure your pillow stays in good shape even if (when?) it gets wet.
- Pros: Discreet, removable machine-washable cover, moisture-resistant inner liner
- Cons: Not ideal for small spaces as it’s almost the size of an ottoman
11What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow?
Our experts recommend keeping these factors in mind as you search for the right balance of cushion and support.
Material
Most sex pillows are either made from foam or have an inflatable design. “Foam pillows are going to be sturdier, last longer, and hold their shape,” Nekrasova says. “They’re also generally better at having more weight put on them.”
Inflatables may get squishy under pressure, and ideally your pillow should be firm enough to hold you up without being rock-hard, Nekrasova says. “[Blow-up pillows] also run the risk of being more likely to get damaged.” Still, it’s worth considering an inflatable if you can’t store a larger pillow or don’t want to spend the time pumping one up (especially in the heat of the moment).
When it comes to the pillow’s cover, look for one that’s removable and water-resistant for easy cleanup. Some are also machine-washable, which makes them more hygienic—and this is especially important if you’re using a pillow with multiple partners. You want a cover that feels good too: “Most people want that fabric to be smooth and soft, or some people like faux leather,” Dr. Torrisi says.
Shape
Some sex pillows are shaped to provide support in certain areas or make specific positions easier. As you shop, consider how (or with whom) you plan to use your pillow to narrow down your choices.
Wedges are popular because they can add more support to positions you do with a partner—for example, the receiving partner can place it under their hips when on their back in missionary or lean their forearms on it during doggy style. But other curved shapes are great for solo play, whether you’re into humping and grinding or you want a slot for using a wand vibrator or dildo. Because who says no to hands-free masturbation?
Additional reporting by Malia Griggs
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