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It’s totally normal if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed on your hunt for the best sex toys for women—there’s a world of options out there, like vibrators, butt plugs, dildos, and anal beads, to name a few. If you’re looking to experiment with a new kind of toy (or toys, in general), it can be hard to sift through all the choices to find what you (or your partner) will enjoy the most.
Whether a G-spot vibe or an app-controlled toy for long-distance play sounds more your speed, we can help you zero in on the best of the best to choose from and help you figure out what might be fun to try. We’ve sized up dozens of options for vulva-owners that definitely deserve a place on your nightstand. Our top picks for the best sex toys for women in 2024 include bestsellers from brands like Lelo, Dame, Lovehoney, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe, recommendations from sex educators, and SELF editor favorites.
Our top picks
- Best Wand Vibrator: The Magic Wand Original
- Best G-Spot Vibrator: We-Vibe Nova Rabbit 2
- Best Clitoral Suction Vibrator: Satisfyer Pro 2
- Best Oral Sex Simulator: Lelo Ora 3
- Best Rabbit Vibrator: Lovehoney Happy Rabbit
- Best Finger Vibrator: Dame Fin
- Best Remote-Control Vibrator: We-Vibe Moxie+
- Best Bullet Vibrator: We-Vibe Tango X
- Best Dildo for Beginners: Lovehoney Ignite Silicone Mini Dildo
- Best Strap-On Harness: SpareParts Hardwear Joque Harness
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- What to consider when shopping for sex toys
- Best Wand Vibrators
- Best G-Spot Vibrators
- Best Clitoral Suction Vibrators and Stimulators
- Best Rabbit Vibrators
- Best Finger Vibrators
- Best Remote-Control Vibrators
- Best Egg and Bullet Vibrators
- Best Palm Vibrators
- Best Butt Plugs and Anal Beads
- Best Dildos and Strap-Ons
What to consider when shopping for sex toys
First, ask yourself how you hope to actually use the toy. “Have an idea of the type of stimulation and pleasure you want to experience, which will help narrow down the toys that will best meet your needs,” says Malika O’Neill, LPC, MEd, a sex and relationship therapist, tells SELF. If you love how it feels when someone goes down on you, take a look at oral sex toys. If your clit is highly sensitive, seek out a toy with gentle vibrations.
From there, consider: What is the toy made to do? Does its size and shape work for you? How many intensity and pattern settings does it have, and how much money do you want to spend on it? Also, check that the toy you’re eyeing is body-safe—choose one made of sanitizable, non-porous materials, like stainless steel, borosilicate glass, and medical-grade silicone. (FYI: If you’re leaning toward a silicone toy, know that silicone-based lube can cause it to break down over time. Instead, try water-based lube, which is usually a safe, solid choice for most sex toys, as SELF has previously reported.)
Vibrators
Vibrators come in a ton of shapes and styles, with different power and speed settings. Although many vibrators are designed for external stimulation, many can also be used internally. Dual-stimulation vibrators target both the clit and the G-spot at the same time.
Wand vibrators often have large, ball-shaped heads, long bodies, and intense motors. This combo allows them to spread vibrations out across a larger area than smaller vibrators, which can feel more focused. “Wands are great for clit stimulation during solo play or partnered play,” Shamyra Howard, LCSW, CST, tells SELF, adding that they can also feel excellent across nipples, butts, and penises.
- Pros: Very powerful, rechargeable, optional cord, flexible neck
- Cons: Bulky, not waterproof, a little noisy
This popular, 13-inch wand has four intensity settings and four powerful vibration patterns, plus a flexible neck that lets you apply pressure at different angles for more targeted sensation. “I feel it vibrate all through me,” one Lovehoney reviewer wrote. Another bonus? You can use the Magic Wand wirelessly or with a cord, so you never have to wonder whether it’s charged up.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 180 minutes | Waterproof: no | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: power cord
- Pros: Compact, affordable, rechargeable, cordless, flexible
- Cons: Noisy
Don’t be fooled by its size: This wand is “small but mighty,” Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, previously told SELF. Over 1,400 Lovehoney shoppers rate the toy an average of 4.5 stars because of its strength (it has 10 intensity levels and seven vibration patterns) and travel-friendly size (it clocks in at 7.5 inches long). Plus, its price tag isn’t as high as those of some of its competitors. If you’re not sure where to start and don’t want to spend a lot up front, we highly recommend this easy-to-use pick.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: N/A | Waterproof: splashproof | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord
For more: Best Wand Vibrators
What’s known as the “G-spot” is most likely a small area of spongy tissue located near the front of the upper vaginal wall. Although its exact location is debated by researchers, it’s no secret that stimulating the area can feel fantastic.
There’s a huge range of insertable vibrators and sex toys that target this zone, including dual-stimulation ones (like rabbit vibrators), curved toys, and models with bulbous heads that pulse or thrust.
- Pros: Dual-stimulating, rechargeable, travel lock, app- and remote-controllable, quiet
- Cons: Pricey, app can lag
This dual stimulation vibrator has a bendy, arched arm that can apply pressure to the G-spot and the clit at the same time. It has a two-hour battery life, is totally waterproof, and can be controlled via the We-Vibe app. The app also gives you the option to sync the toy with music downloaded on your device—talk about taking your sex playlist to the next level!
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
- Pros: Dual-stimulating, unique settings, attachment options
- Cons: Pricey, magnetic charger comes loose
The Womanizer Duo features the clit-targeting, air-pulse technology of an oral-sex-simulating vibrator, along with a curved arm that slips inside. Plus, it has 14 levels of intensity for serious G-spot stimulation. Lovehoney reviewers appreciate how easy it is to use solo and with a partner, thanks to some of its special features: “When my clitoris becomes too tender, I hit the Afterglow button, which drops the intensities down to a low, gentle sensation,” one shopper wrote. “Being able to press a single button (rather than frantically pressing the minus button) is great.”
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: two stimulator heads, USB power cord, storage bag
For more: Best G-Spot Vibrators
Clitoral suction vibrators (a.k.a. suckers, air-pulse vibrators, or oral sex simulators) have wide openings that surround the head of the clitoris without touching it and pulse tiny waves of air that “evoke the feeling of suction,” Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, tells SELF. There are also clitoral stimulators, which have body-safe silicone lips, tongues, or petals that flick across the clit.
- Pros: Under $100, rechargeable
- Cons: Noisy, short battery run time
This clit sucker comes previously recommended by AASECT-certified sex therapist Indigo Stray Conger, LMFT, for its affordable price, waterproof body, and 11 levels of intensity. It’s also on the smaller side and can be easily controlled with just one hand, making it a great option for beginners.
- Materials: plastic, silicone | Battery life: 30 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord
- Pros: Rechargeable, long battery life, narrow mouth
- Cons: Pricey, noisy
O’Neill says the Lelo Sona 2 is one of the best clit vibrators because of its slim mouth: It fits well around the head of the clitoris and can provide a powerful sucking sensation. The toy pulses in 12 different patterns that build from a hum to a roar. Over 900 Lelo shoppers awarded the suction toy five stars for its easy-to-hold curved design and wide range of settings. “You can really stretch out play time for as long or short as you want,” one reviewer wrote.
- Materials: plastic, silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
- Pros: Rechargeable, discreet, ergonomic shape
- Cons: Pricey
Reviewers love this clitoral sucking toy for its minimalist design that's comfortable to hold (it won’t give you hand cramps) and how soft its five intensity levels start out, making it ideal for anyone who’s highly sensitive. “The head of the device provides such a gentle, yet intense experience,” one reviewer wrote. It also offers five patterns, so you can find the perfect rhythm for maximum pleasure.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 90 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB-C power cord, storage bag
- Pros: Rechargeable, gentle, waterproof
- Cons: Pricey, noisy
Unlike other clitoral vibrators, the Ora 3 is shaped like a donut and has a nub-like “tongue” or “pleasure node” that rotates in 12 vibration settings. Compared to older models, this one is 25% faster, with LED lights that blink to tell you how charged it is. Fully waterproof and designed with a larger and firmer node than previous versions, the Ora 3 is worth the investment if you’re searching for a realistic oral sex toy.
- Materials: plastic, silicone | Battery life: 60 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
For more: Best Oral Sex Toys, Best Clitoral Vibrators
Sex and the City fans might already know about the rabbit vibrator. That original vibe had a long body that could enter the vagina, with rabbit “ears" that stimulated the clit. While some rabbit vibes today have preserved this signature style, others have replaced the “ears” with shorter, curved arms or suction mechanisms that still offer dual stimulation.
- Pros: Rechargeable, travel lock, quiet, waterproof
- Cons: Somewhat bulky
The Happy Rabbit’s classic two-in-one design combines flexible ears that tickle the clit with a curved vibrating arm that pulses against the G-spot. Almost 700 Lovehoney shoppers rated the toy 4.5 stars or higher, saying they appreciated its 15 vibration modes and how quiet it is. Other nice-to-haves include a travel lock and a fully submersible design.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord
- Pros: Sleek look, app provides metrics around your arousal
- Cons: Pricey
O’Neill previously recommended this smart sex toy to SELF, pointing to its frankly enormous range of vibration settings and integrated app (which communicates with pressure sensors in the rabbit’s shaft) as major selling points. “This rabbit has 100 different vibration settings (!) and can be synced to The Lioness app, which provides you with real data about your pleasure, because Lioness reads your pelvic floor movements (contracting and relaxing) as you reach orgasm,” O’Neill said. If your previous sex toys have felt a little low-tech for your liking, you’ll probably love the Lioness.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag, storage box
- Pros: Rechargeable, compact and travel-friendly, under $75
- Cons: Purely clitoral stimulation
Try this top pick when you need the pocket size of a bullet with the clitoral stimulation of a rabbit vibe (it’s a hair shy of four inches long). The Rabbit Bullet’s ears flutter against or hug the clit for orgasmic ripples. “Don’t be fooled by how cute this toy is—the low rumble of Je Joue’s motor packs some serious power for an intense climax,” Babeland brand manager Lisa Finn previously told SELF. Just note that, unlike other rabbit vibrators, this one doesn’t target the G-spot.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 90 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord
For more: Best Rabbit Vibrators
Finger vibrators either slide onto a finger or fit between two of them and can be used on breasts, butts, clits, or anywhere else you like. They’re great additions to masturbation (especially if you’re a beginner to vibrators) and partnered play because they let you use your hand as you ordinarily would, Good Vibrations education director Andy Duran previously told SELF.
- Pros: Rechargeable, discreet, under $75
- Cons: May not feel strong enough for some
The bestselling Dame Fin can be held between your fingers and has an optional tether that can loop around them for even more movement and exploration. “If you prefer the tactile sensation of your partner’s hand to that of a sex toy, you can position the Fin on the top side of your fingers, turning them into a conduit for the vibration,” says Finn. Dame reviewers also enjoy the toy’s silky smooth exterior and foreplay-friendly intensity.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 90 minutes | Waterproof: water-resistant | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
For more: Best Finger Vibrators
There’s a lot to love about remote-control vibrators: They’re often cordless and many can be managed from afar through an app—a real turn-on for anyone in a long-distance relationship.
- Pros: Rechargeable, wearable, remote- and app-controllable, discreet
- Cons: App connectivity can reportedly be inconsistent
Searching for a wearable vibrator? This remote- and app-controllable option can magnetically fasten into undies, under clothes, or a harness, Shadeen Francis, LMFT, a sex and relationship therapist, previously told SELF. Reviewers wrote that the Moxie+ is a real turn-on to wear during foreplay and for long-distance sex. “Not only can my partner use the toy on me, but I can use it on myself too,” one reviewer said.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag, remote control, We-Vibe lube sample
- Pros: Long battery life, rechargeable, wearable, app-controllable
- Cons: Noisy at full power
The Lovense Lush 2 is one of the best hands-free sex toys. Its curved shaft is designed to fit inside the vagina, and it has a slender external arm that makes for easy removal. “It can be controlled from anywhere in the world, the curved head nestles comfortably against the sensitive tissues of the G-spot, and the vibrations range from a rumble to a pulsing earthquake,” Francis said. Like We-Vibe’s offerings, the Lush 2 can also sync up with your music, creating unlimited vibration patterns for an ultra-customizable experience.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 300 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord
For more: Best Remote-Control Vibrators, Best Panty Vibrators
“Egg vibrators are egg-shaped and fit in the palm. They can be clitoral stimulators [or] all-over vibes, and some can even be used for [vaginal] insertion,” Dr. Queen says. Bullet vibrators are a slimmer, more petite sex toy for women that often have a pointed tip to offer targeted sensation. They’re perhaps the most discreet sex toys—they’re small enough to slip into a clutch or pocket, or, hell, even wear as jewelry.
- Pros: Rechargeable, remote-controllable, travel lock, can be used internally, quiet
- Cons: Pricey
You get the best of both worlds with the Lelo Lyla 2, which has a rounded shape that still fits inside the vagina. Thanks to the motion sensors in the remote control, users can shift between eight patterns and different speeds just by tilting their hand. “I like inserting it when my boyfriend and I do anal,” one reviewer wrote.
- Materials: plastic, silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag, remote control
- Pros: Rechargeable, discreet, travel lock, strong sensations despite its size
- Cons: Buttons are difficult to push (according to some reviewers)
This is not your average bullet vibe: It has seven vibration modes, eight intensity levels, and an angled tip for precision. One Lovehoney customer called the Tango X the “perfect travel toy” in their review. “It’s small, easy to adjust, and quite strong,” they wrote. “It’s also well-suited as an add-on for a strap-on.”
- Materials: plastic, silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
- Pros: Rechargeable, discreet, under $50, easy to use
- Cons: Limited intensities and patterns
A SELF commerce editor called the compact Maude Vibe the “sex toy I didn’t know I needed.” Its slim, elongated body lets you use it like an extension of your finger, with a tapered tip that targets the clit. This simple, whisper-quiet vibe has three intensities that ramp up from fluttery to “eye-poppingly powerful,” she says.
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 90 minutes | Waterproof: water-resistant | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
For more: Best Egg Vibrators, Best Bullet Vibrators
Similar to the heads of wand vibes, palm vibrators have a wider surface area than other toys with more pointed tips. Their oblong shape makes it easier to diffuse sensations across the vulva (and elsewhere beyond the clit)—which can feel really good, Dr. Queen says.
- Pros: Rechargeable, discreet, gentle, quiet
- Cons: May not feel intense enough for some
The Pom’s body is almost entirely bendable and wide enough to touch the whole vulva, while its tip is pinpointed for extra clit stimulation. It can feel nice around the anal opening, too. “I highly recommend Pom to anyone who wants leg-shaking external pleasure,” a Dame reviewer wrote. “It’s super-quiet for how powerful it is, it’s made of really soft silicone, and the vibrations are more like a rumble than a buzz.”
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 60 minutes | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage bag
Penetrative Sex Toys
Penetrative toys include butt plugs, anal beads, and dildos. A few words to the wise? For anal penetration, lube up, and be sure your toy has a flared base (or risk it getting stuck in your rectum). If you’re using a toy inside or on both a vagina and a butt, always clean it carefully between uses to prevent the transfer of bacteria.
Butt plugs are usually cone-shaped, with wide bases that keep them from sliding out of, or up in to, your ass. They’re “designed for safe anal penetration and can be left in the [butt], freeing your hands to do other pleasurable things,” says Dr. Queen.
While butt plugs offer a feeling of pressure and fullness, anal beads “were designed to stimulate inside the body and specifically to move in and out of the bum,” Alicia Sinclair, the CEO of sex toy company B-Vibe, previously told SELF.
Newcomers may want to start with a smaller butt plug (roughly the size of a finger or two) before working their way up to anything larger. The same principle applies to anal beads: Choose a string that starts small and grows bigger to ease into the feeling, as Sinclair recommended.
- Pros: Rechargeable, remote-controllable, lots of vibration options
- Cons: Pricey
If you’re new to anal play, you might start with the Novice, a vibrating butt plug that is only about the size of a pinky (3.35 inches) and has 15 vibration patterns for a wide range of sensations. Reviewers are especially fond of the included remote, which allows your partner to get in on the fun. (If vibration feels daunting for your first go-around, you can opt for a simpler plug like the Gala Confetti Mini.)
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: 120 minutes | Waterproof: splashproof | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: USB power cord, storage case, remote control
- Pros: Bullet vibrator included, under $25, finger loop for easy removal
- Cons: Requires batteries, single-speed
You get two for the price of one: These beads come with a removable bullet vibe that fits inside the base (and boasts seven vibration modes). Each bead on this chain grows in diameter from 0.25 inches to 1 inch, making it a great choice for anyone looking to work their way up to more intense anal pleasure. “They’re smooth, go in easily because of their tapered design, and the vibration feels really wonderful,” one shopper wrote.
- Materials: plastic, silicone | Battery life: N/A | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: N/A
For more: Best Butt Plugs, How to Use Anal Beads
The basic dildo is a penis-shaped toy that can be inserted into the vagina or anus. Some have suction bases that provide stability, some are double-ended, and some are designed to pair with strap-on harnesses for hands-free vaginal and anal penetration with a partner. Many strap-on sets are sold with dildos included, which is a cost-effective option for beginners looking to try both.
- Pros: Under $25, compact, compatible with a strap-on
- Cons: Suction may not be strong enough for some
The Ignite is a top suction dildo that comes highly recommended by Francis. Its 4.5-inch body makes it good for those looking for something on the smaller side, and it’s just $20. “The suction cup base makes it pretty versatile,” one shopper wrote. “You can get quite a bit of play in before you feel like you want a larger toy or another activity.”
- Materials: silicone | Battery life: N/A | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: storage bag
- Pros: Discreet, easy to clean, curved body, different-sized endings
- Cons: Pricey
This toy got a truly ringing endorsement: three different experts recommended the Njoy Pure to SELF. It’s a metal dildo with an arched body that lets you angle it more easily for internal massage. It has different-sized weighted balls on each end to apply varying pressure. “Curved toys can be great to stimulate sensitive internal nerve bundles, like the G-spot or prostate,” Francis told SELF. It’s made of stainless steel—a material that warms and cools, making it great for temperature play.
- Materials: stainless steel | Battery life: N/A | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based and silicone-based | Included accessories: storage case
- Pros: Many accessories included, under $75, harness is machine-washable
- Cons: Bullet vibe may not feel strong enough for some, requires batteries
This extensive set includes three O-rings, which let you insert different sizes of dildos and toys in the harness—making it “a great value for couples looking to embark on their pegging journey,” as one reviewer put it. Dr. Fleming previously told SELF that she likes how the harness is machine-washable and adjusts to fit hips up to 65 inches.
- Materials: silicone (dildos) and plastic (bullet vibrator) | Battery life: N/A | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: water-based | Included accessories: two dildos, a bullet vibe, and three O-rings
- Pros: Includes two pockets for bullet vibes, versatile O-ring, good adjustment range
- Cons: Pricey
“I love this SpareParts harness because it’s super-versatile, friendly to lots of body types and sizes, metal-free, and very comfortable for both the wearer and the other partner," Ori Nelsen, PsyD, founder of San Francisco Intimacy and Sex Therapy Center, previously told SELF. The O-ring stretches up to two inches to fit a variety of toys with flared bases, and the harness adjusts between 20 and 50 inches.
- Materials: spandex, nylon | Battery life: N/A | Waterproof: yes | Lube compatibility: N/A | Included accessories: storage bag
For more: Best Dildos, Best Strap-Ons
Our experts
- Malika O’Neill, LPC, MEd and sex and relationship therapist and founder of The Pleasure Collective
- Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibrations staff expert
- Shamyra Howard, LCSW, CST, and Lovehoney staff expert
- Megan Fleming, PhD, psychologist, and AASECT-certified sex therapist
- Indigo Stray Conger, LMFT, AASECT-certified sex therapist
- Lisa Finn, Babeland brand manager
- Shadeen Francis, LMFT, AASECT-certified sex therapist
- Alicia Sinclair, CEO of sex toy company B-Vibe
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