Love
Losing battle
5 Signs You and Your Partner’s Arguments Are Unhealthy
If one of you regularly employs the silent treatment, that’s a problem.
By Julia Ries
24 Expert-Approved Sex Toys for All Experience Levels
Including beginner-friendly rabbits, remote-controlled vibes, and more.
By Malia Griggs and Sara Coughlin
Love
‘All My Exes Are Crazy’ Is a Relationship Red Flag You Should Take Seriously
Constantly trash-talking people they once loved reveals a lot about their character.
By Jenna Ryu
12 Tips for Having Better, More Intense Orgasms
If you’re looking to come so hard you forget your own name, read on.
By Zahra Thompson
How Dating With a Chronic Illness Taught Me Not to Settle for Less
The stigma is real, but I had to stop thinking of myself as “damaged goods.”
By Caroline Reilly
How to Have Multiple Orgasms When One Just Isn’t Enough
It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
By Zahra Thompson
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The 26 Sexiest Shows to Stream on Netflix Right Now
From the steamy to the downright dirty.
By Samantha Vincenty and Hannah Dylan Pasternak
14 Non-Corny Ways to Feel Much Closer to Your Partner
Ask them for advice, sleep in their clothes, and sneak a candy bar into their work bag.
By Amy Rose Spiegel
Love
How to Get Really, Really Good at Kissing
Tips about form, technique, and all things tongue.
By Nikki Campo and Gigi Engle
Love
8 People Share How Their Divorce Changed Their Life for the Better
“Finally, I loved what I did for a living. I loved who I was and the new friends I’d made.”
By Jenna Ryu
The Beginner’s Guide to Using a Vibrator
If you’re brand-new to this type of sex toy, here’s everything to know to have an amazing time.
By Anna Borges and Amy Rose Spiegel
What My First Time Having Sex After Giving Birth Felt Like
It absolutely took longer than six weeks to get back in the groove.
By Julia Ries
Love
6 Not-Obvious Signs You’re Falling Out of Love With Your Partner
There’s a difference between needing a little space and fantasizing about a separate life.
By Jenna Ryu
State of the union
Scheduling a Weekly ‘House Meeting’ With My Partner Changed My Damn Life
Now we save the stressful stuff for our check-ins so we can actually enjoy our couch time and date nights.
By Julia Ries
Here’s Where to Find the Best Audio Porn and Erotica
Whether you’re into sexy stories, masturbation tutorials, or straight-up moaning.
By Anna Borges and Jenni Miller
How to Give a Mind-Blowingly Hot Prostate Massage
You can make the P-spot feel great from the inside or outside of your partner’s body.
By Zahra Thompson
Life
How to Be a Genuinely Good Listener
Just because you can technically hear someone, doesn’t mean they feel heard.
By Anna Borges
Halle Berry Said a Doctor Mistook Her Perimenopause for the ‘Worst Case of Herpes’ He’d Seen
It took a negative STI test for her symptoms to be taken seriously.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
The One Thing You Should Never Do When Your Partner Is Annoying You
If you actually want them to change their ways, you have to be strategic.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
I Have a Great Partner—So Why Do I Still Feel Lonely?
You don’t have to be by yourself to feel disconnected.
By Stephanie Hallett